Children with good self esteem and confidence tend to do better at home, school, with friends and extended family. They have the confidence to try new things. The way you bring up your child has a way of shaping such a child into becoming a more confident person.
To be successful and thrive better, children need to trust in their own abilities. They also need to know that it’s ok to try out something and fail. This will help them to handle failures well when they come knocking.
D’Arcy Lyness PhD said, ‘’Every child is different. Self-esteem may come easier to some kids than others. And some kids face things that can lower their self-esteem. But even if a child’s self-esteem is low, it can be raised.’’
As parents and guardians, you have a great role to play in boosting the confidence level of your child. The following tips will in a long way help you achieve that.
1. Be a model to them in that area
Children learn a lot from their parents. Most of these children see their mums and dads as role models. If you want to instill confidence in your children, then be a model of confidence to them. Be optimistic in the new task you take on. Never brood over your mistakes and failures. However, you can acknowledge your vulnerability and anxiety instead of forming superman.
2. Commend the efforts of your children
When your children do very well or averagely well, endeavour to praise their efforts, even if they were not impressive. Let them know you are proud of them, not however neglecting the encouraging words you should give to them to do better.
Try not to fake it. Tell them the area they did well and where they should improve on. For instance in their grades in school, you can tell them how well they performed in vocational studies and let them know that with more hard work they can perform better in mathematics.
3. Teach them to do new things
As a child grows, there are some certain things they should begin to do. As parents. It is your duty to teach them. From learning how to brush their teeth, to bathing, dressing, greeting people, engaging in social activities and so much more. They are delighted to learn and know new things and this builds confidence in them.
‘’When teaching kids how to do things, show and help them at first. Then let them do what they can, even if they make mistakes. Be sure your child gets a chance to learn, try, and feel proud. Don’t make new challenges too easy — or too hard.’’ D’Arcy Lyness said.
4. Avoid using abusive and negative words
Negative words go a long way in demeaning the self esteem of children. Words like ‘You can’t do anything’, ‘Your mates are better than you’, ‘Nonsense child’ etc should not be used on them. To a great extent those words do more harm than good. If you want to increase the confidence level of your child, then you should avoid them.
5. Focus on their strengths
Your children have strength in certain areas. Rather than focusing on their weaknesses, focus on their strengths and help them improve on those strengths. It is from those things they do well that their confidence level would be increased.
6. Show them love
That’s right! When your children are aware that you love them, they feel secured. The feeling of being secured, increases their confidence.