Whether it’s your first kiss or your hundredth, kissing someone for the first time is arguably the most important one; you might never get a do-over. Knowing when to kiss someone is as important as knowing how.
You can tremendously improve your kissing game.
Sex coach Trevor Jones of Pleasure Evolution says the best time to kiss is when it’s desired-something you’ll know simply by spending time with the other person. “You and your partner should have had enough chemistry that you’re able to tell there is an attraction”; don’t rush it and don’t be demanding.
…and of course, you can ask them, “Can I kiss you?”
An affirmative response will be electrifying, but if you get a “NO”, you would have saved yourself a great deal of stress; and a possible backlash.
Taking a step further and French kissing can be pleasurable for some people, but you should make sure to introduce your tongue into your partner’s mouth slowly and sensually and make sure your lips are wet.
…don’t be in a hurry, close your eyes!
The best kisses are usually the ones that are relaxed and sensual.
I advise you to start by lightly finding their tongue with the tip of yours, then pull back, try grazing past the tip of their tongue and pull back. Circle the tip of their tongue, pull back. The pullback gives you time to breathe and keeps you from an overflow of saliva.
…too much saliva is not good.
Keep your hands on either side of their head and run your hands gently into the hair.
Suck and massage your partner’s tongue slowly — but not too hard. You can branch out by taking your lips to other parts of the body.
Knowing how to kiss is a lifelong skill. You need to be open to communicating your desires, as well as listening to what your partner wants.
However, pay attention to your mouth and body odour and don’t kiss anyone you don’t want to kiss.