A lot of times people fall in love either romantically or otherwise with other persons, spouses, their jobs, parents or children and relegate loving themselves to a corner.
It is amazing because you cannot give what you don’t have. You have to fall in love with yourself first, then others follow. The Holy Scripture says love your neighbour as yourself.
Chris Savage, a blogger said falling in love with yourself means the following; “Accepting and knowing yourself, and living a productive and rewarding life. Having self-respect and clear boundaries for what you’ll accept and what you won’t. Having a healthy self-image that isn’t dependent upon anyone but yourself. A commitment to never-ending improvement.”
When you fall in love with yourself, you appreciate your values, worth and abilities better. No one can appreciate them better except you.
According to Marelisa Fabrega, a writer in the blog Daring to live fully, falling in love with yourself will allow you to do all of the following:
- Give yourself what you need, instead of waiting for others to do so.
- Embrace both your strengths and your weaknesses.
- Be gentle with yourself when you make a mistake or fail.
- Be comfortable with doing things alone.
- Know you’re in your corner, even if nobody else is.
- Know that you’re enough.
- Have the confidence to go after what you really want.
To effectively fall in love with yourself, you should do the following:
1. Write down your achievements
Making a list of the things you have achieved will better help you to appreciate yourself and fall in love with yourself rather than drooling in failures. Because we have exonerated our failures so much, we forget to make a list of our accomplishments and appreciating the efforts so far.
Marelisa Fabrega said “We all have to-do list filled with all of the things that we need to get done. How about creating a list of all the things we’ve already accomplished?”
2. Change the things you don’t like about yourself
To fall in love with yourself you have to change the things you don’t like about yourself. Change can be possible if you decide to. The only change that could be difficult is when you are trying to change someone else, but since it’s you, that is possible if you are willing to. You want to change the way you dress, your manner of speaking or your relationship with people. Please go ahead as long as it makes you love yourself better because it is certain you can’t love others if you don’t first love yourself.
3. Give yourself a treat
It should not just be about others alone; you should also take out time to give yourself a special treatment. Have a personal date, get yourself gifts. Have time alone for yourself. A time to rediscover yourself without any distractions.
4. See Yourself Differently
Here’s another way to love yourself. See yourself differently, not the way others see you. Others could see you as naïve, weak and shallow-minded. You should see yourself as strong, one with confidence, a goal getter. You create the way you want people to see you. In fact, pour yourself encomium. However, work towards bringing to reality, that which you see yourself as. Admit failures when they occur and appreciate your achievements as well.
5. Take care of your health
To keep the body in good health is a duty … otherwise we shall not be able to keep the mind strong and clear.” – Buddha.
Take care of your physical body. Your body and your mind work together. If one is suffering, it affects the other. Exercise should not be toiled with. When you are physically fit, you achieve more, you are happier and most importantly you fall in love with yourself. That’s when expressions like “I love the woman I am becoming or I love the man I have turned out to be” start flocking around.