In relationship, it is genuine to feel a little jealous at times, especially if you have very deep feelings for your partner. Occasional jealousy is okay and may even add a little glitter and excitement to your relationship. but when is extreme you need to be cautious so it wont destroy your relationship.
Below are five vital tips to help you deal with unreasonable jealousy:
1.HEAL YOUR WONDS:
People tend to act jealous because of past relationships. You might have been hurt before and might have been cheated on. You have to move beyond your past and realize that you are out of that relationship and in a new one.
Understanding the roots, triggers and reasons for your jealousy is an important part of personal growth and maintaining a healthy relationship. Whenever you start feeling jealous, make a conscious effort to heal your old wounds, be more resilient so that your past does not affect your present and future.
The best thing you can do is trust yourself before you can trust your partner, because you can not give what you do not have.
A relationship without trust is a time bomb about to explode at any time. Your relationship has to be built on trust, to prevent a fight and break u.
3. CLAM DOWN AND STAY VULNERABLE:
To love is to be vulnerable. what you need to do is to open your heart to your partner, trust whatever comes and keep calm. You have to realize that love comes with risks and all rosy relationships have a price. Any time you feel jealous calm down and remember the beautiful days.
4. DO NOT ACT ON YOUR FEELINGS:
It is hard not to act the way you are feeling, the real trouble starts when you start acting on that jealousy and let it consume you. You can feel the feeling, but do not have to act on it. Control every negative feeling you have about your partner and do not let it build up.
The reason why people get jealous is because they have low self-esteem and insecurity issues. They tend to think that they are not good enough, their partner will realize this, and will leave them for someone else. You need to know that there is a reason why your partner liked you in the first place and got together with you.
SOURCE: The Guardian by Olamide Sanusi