Marriage is a bundle of joy, but it is also hard work, it takes more than the ring to be happy and prevent all those extramarital affairs.
Mistresses and side chics are regarded as normal in Nigeria because every male is expected to cheat, which makes it difficult for women to confront their spouses.
It takes a man who is disciplined and self-controllable, who fears and loves God, to refrain from having extramarital affair. Remember that a man who does not want to be kept by you will cheat no matter how much you sacrifice for him, but there are some things you may do to distract him from side chics.
According to modernghana.com, some of the things to do to keep your husband from side chics include:
This implies that you and your husband can have a happy and prosperous marriage if you trust God. You should always pray as a virtuous lady to entrust your marital life into God’s hands and allow him to guide your marriage along the correct path.
Temptations will occur, and disputes may erupt, but if you continually cry out to God, He will hear you and grant you your heart’s desire.
2. Work on your character and attitudes:
A man is always attracted to a woman because of a particular feature he finds in the woman, when that feature is no longer in view, there is a chance that the man will look for it in side chics thereby causing the wife to be unhappy.
Your spouse saw a lot of women, but when he found the qualities he liked and wanted in you, he approached you and started dating you. You were obedient, respectful, dressed properly, supportive, sweet, you looked your best, when going to meet him, and so on during the period of your dating. He adored everything about you and even proposed to you, but after he put the ring on your finger, you changed overnight, your true self emerged!
This forces him to do the unthinkable, such as finding a side chic to take over the task you were intended to perform.
To have your husband all to yourself, go over and above by enhancing the characteristics he admires in you. You must constantly be submissive to him. You can be a wonderful lady, but if you disrespects and disobey your husband, you are putting him in the hands of someone else.
Working on your character and attitude, you need to work on your communication with him and dressing style.
When you are communicating to your husband, you need to know how to choose your words carefully. When interacting with him, refrain from shouting at the top of your voice and instead use words like please, sorry, and so on. Do not use abusive words on him when talking to him, and do not say things in disagreements that you will regret and put your marriage in jeopardy.
In your dressing style, you just have to look attractive, catchy, and neat all the time.
3.You must know how to manage your home as a wife:
You should be able to handle your home as a married woman, do not leave your house unclean as a married woman, and dress appropriately in town. You must first maintain your house in order before dressing attractively outside.
It is said that a man’s heart may be reached through his stomach. A lady who is not good at cooking will lose her spouse to a side chic who is always able to cook delicious meals for your husband. If he likes your cooking, he will be thinking about it at work, and hearing that meal is ready over the phone will feel like winning the lottery.
Create an atmosphere for him that makes him miss you when he’s not at home. This is accomplished by watching the things he enjoys.
4. Support him financially:
He is your partner, and the money you earn is our money, not yours, so help him out when he needs it.
Be the one to catch him when he falls, to console him when he is upset, and to bring smiles to his face while he is crying. Always be there for him, and don’t let other ladies do your work for you.
This implies that as wives we must assist our spouses in all parts of their lives. It is not solely the husband’s responsibility to look after you; you, as a wife, may do it as well.
Take care of your husband if he loses his job and you are still working and generating money since it is your role as a woman. You should even be pleased and proud of yourself for assisting your husband when he is short on cash.
5. Stop being a liability:
Do not waste your husband’s money by sitting around the house and demanding and spending his money; instead, work hard and support him.
A woman who works hard, provides for her needs despite the fact that some believe it is the husband’s responsibility, assists the husband, and maintains the home. A good wife will always have her husband’s love and it will be impossible for him to consider having an extra-marital affair.