Although every romantic relationship has challenges, experience has show that long-distance relationships have a set of potential issues that may hinder its success which are particular to the geographical distance between the two partners
Long-distance relationships are also more difficult to maintain than traditional relationships but that does not mean it can’t work.
So, why do long-distance relationships don’t work? Why do long-distance relationships fail? There could be various problems with long-distance relationships.
In this article, we will be looking at some of the factors that can strain long-distance relationships:
1. Catching up virtually can be taxing
Say that you or your partner, as many people in the modern world, work with computers and phones. If that’s the case, the last thing you want to do after work is spending more time on the computer or phone.
At the same time, you want to catch up with your partner and spend quality time with them. As a result, you may experience frustration or start to resent the fact that you can only communicate over video chat, text, and phone, which is one of the main reasons why long-distance relationships don’t work.
2. Conflict resolution isn’t the same
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Conflict resolution can be difficult in long-distance relationships. When you’re face to face, there’s not only a greater chance for picking up on non-verbal communication, but you don’t get to sit with your partner after conflict.
At least, not in a physical sense. Conflict resolution has to be a lot more intentional and may take additional patience and dedication when it’s dependent on a phone or video chat conversation only.
Hanging up can feel abrupt, and the feeling of conflict can linger even if you’ve talked it out and are confident about the resolution.
3. Conflict itself isn’t the same
Conflict is part of every relationship; it’s inevitable. Similar to the process of conflict resolution, arguments themselves are different when the conversation is always and unavoidably over the phone or computer.
There’s more room for misunderstanding. If you do hang up before fully resolving an argument – even if it’s the healthiest thing for you to do and you need some space before continuing the conversation – it can be particularly painful.
4. You might start wanting different things
In life, we’re always learning and growing. What happens in long-distance partnerships is sometimes that, regardless of what life stage you’re in, you grow in a different direction from your partner – and you might not even realize it right away.
Where you can tell that you’re growing apart in real-time in face-to-face partnerships, you might not realize it until much later on when you’re long-distance.
The fact that you’ve grown apart might hit you all at once, whether that’s the next time you’re together in person or after weeks (or months) of virtual conversation that starts to drift off.
5. Emotional ups and downs
It’s true that we all go through emotional ups and downs and that every relationship has ups and downs. However, the ups and downs that come with long-distance relationships can be unique or even more intense.
There could be intense excitement surrounding the one time per year, let’s say, that you get to see each other and major downs when you’re apart. You might get very excited for a virtual date night and fall flat once it’s over, wishing that they were there with you.
The longer you spend as a couple who don’t get to be together in person, the more painful this can get, and sadly, even when it’s paired with deep feelings of love and appreciation, the feelings that come with being apart can start to strain the partnership. Being apart can hurt.