Do you find yourself always wanting to please someone or something because you don’t want to offend them which eventually leads to stress?, anyway, You are not alone in this.
However, I have realized that it’s better to have a healthier state of mind than having to go through a lot of stress just to please someone.
It is easier to say yes to something or someone even when it is not convenient for you. Saying yes to something that would increase your stress level is not something you should want to do.
There should be a “when and how” to say no, to relieve you from that stress.
You should not sacrifice your peace of mind because you want to please someone.
You don’t have more time to yourself. Everyone has 24 hours to executive anything. Saying no, may not be an easy way but of course, it’s a good way for stress relief.
Try as much as possible not to accept more commitment that you may not be able to handle. Sometimes, the offers can be mouth watery, could bring a lot of money, but never forget that your sanity is more important than anything.
Elizabeth Scott in a very well mind blog gave three simple ways to say no to something or someone to ease up your stress.
1. Just Say “I’m Sorry—I Can’t Do This Right Now”
Applying the simple courtesy of apologizing and turning down offers she said, sometimes will help to stall until you have a chance to fully look at how saying “yes” to this new commitment may affect your life and the lives of those who already depend on you.
She added that the best tone to use is a sympathetic, but firm tone.’ If pressured as to why, reply that it doesn’t fit into your schedule, and change the subject.’ She said.
2. Give Yourself Time
You can also buy yourself some time by telling them that you would want to think about it, especially if you are uncomfortable with being so firm or the people or person you are dealing with is pushy. She said, “it’s OK to say, Let me think about it and get back to you. This gives you a chance to review your schedule, as well as your feelings about saying “yes” to another commitment, do a cost-benefit analysis, and then get back to them with a yes or no”
3. Say Yes to Something Else
Finally, another simple thing to respond to this, Elizabeth said is to say yes to something else. According to her “If you would like to do what they’re requesting, but don’t have the time (or are having trouble accepting that you don’t), it’s fine to say, I can’t do this, but I can… and mention a lesser commitment that you can make. This way you’ll still be partially involved, but it will be on your terms”
Mental health is real, you should try as much as possible to protect yourself, you should not harm yourself by overstressing your physical and mental state.