It is perfectly normal to have a fight with a partner, but how do you make up afterward? According to pulse tv, it’s important to be mature in how you handle a fight. This means taking responsibility for your actions and apologizing for any wrongdoing.
Communicate openly with your partner and make sure to be an effective listener. When moving past the fight, give your partner positive attention and show that you’re willing to make changes for the benefit of your relationship.
1. Stop the argument so that you can resolve to make up:
Avoid holding hard feeling or letting the argument spill over into a new day. Make a resolution together to end the conflict. Mutually agree to make up so that you can both begin to heal.
2. Acknowledge your role in the argument:
Recognize that regardless of what the fight was about, you played a role in it. Be deferential and admit where you went wrong. Leave out the “but” or “you should have” and focus on how you contributed to the fight.
3. Deal with your anger:
Fights often lead to anger and upset. If you are angry, recognize that you are in control and that your partner does not “make” you angry. Take steps to help calm your anger, such as deep breathing. Think about what causes your anger and try and see the big picture.
4. Apologize for your wrong:
Express your understanding of what you did, then express your regret for doing it. Show tenderness by acknowledging their emotions and how you are impacting them. Specifically, say “I’m sorry” so that your partner knows you are explicitly apologizing for your wrongdoing.
5. Forgive your partner:
Don’t hold a grievance against your partner. Tell your partner that you forgive them and do not want to hold on negative feelings toward them or the relationship. You have to be open for heart to heart conversation, to enable you express your feelings to your partner. You can also write a letter to your partner saying that you forgive them. Let them know that you are letting go of grudges and leaving the past in the past.
